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14 Dec 2005

i though he'd moved on??
Hi Everyone,

Last night my ex of just over a year phoned me to say he needs to know where he stands with me..... Of course i was thinking HUH? where does this come from??

Anyway, he said that his girlfriend has noticied that he is up one day, down another, and feels that he is longing for me..... she asked him to sort things out with me, if thats what i want, she will step down and move out, so that he and i can get back together....

he said he needs to know where he stands with me and if i want to get back together or not... if not, he needs to move on....

C'mon, it was over when we got divorced, I have moved on. We have a really good relationship, now that we are not together, but I am in love with and engaged to another man.... I have moved on already.

I dont want to be nasty and say I how feel in a way that sounds cold harted, but I dont love him that way anymore. How do i go about telling him, without rippin him to shreds?

Bear in mind, he had an affair with this woman for 2yrs before we got divorced. I told him the grass wasnt greener on the other side... My fiance is feeling hurt, which is quite understandable, but now i feel that i have to prove to my fiance that i do want to be with him...

WHY DOES LIFE HAVE TO BE SO DAMN COMPLICATED!!!!!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Well, if it were less complicated it would be much more boring.
You express your entirely reasonable and justifiable viewpoint exceelently --- just tell him that, in similar words, and don't let him prsuade you to mess up your happiness to try to solve his problem in sustaining relationships --- that task shopuld be left to his therapist. ou owe him nothing.
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