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23 Feb 2004

I want her back!!!!!
Me and my ex-girl were together for 3 years. She came from a broken home and this affected our relationship heavily. She always seemed to doubt herself and had issues with self confidence. Anyway, alot of outside factors lead to the end of our relationship a few months ago. She met someone else and has known this other guy for 5 months. They are now together for 2 months and she decided to move in with him, because she could not live in her parents house anymore. Her mom is a alcoholic and is very abusive. I love this girl with all my heart and i want her back. I told her this and she said i am confusing her. I dont know if she loves this new guy and all i want is to have her back. I know she lovd me very much. I just want to know if i should give up and face the truth?
I am a broken man, and i have thought about suicide.....

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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Folks, never ever make your life dependent on the moods and affections of anyone else. Never give away that much power to anyone else. So suicide should not even arise as a thought --- it would solve absolutely none of your problems.
If you two really loved each other that much, why did you break up ? I suspect that you both had good reasons for the breakup, and that this urge to unbreak up, is arising out of feelings of jealousy because she seems to have found someone else. Yes she has problems, which she has chosen to try to deal with on her own --- they are not your problems now. She sounds as if she is trying to get on with the rest of her life, and you don't want her to. Let go. Real Love always needs you to set the person free, as the old saying goes. If they don't come back then they were nevr yours anyway.
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