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04 Jan 2005

I want out please help
Hi to all of u and compliments for 2005.

I am staying with my boyfriend, a decision I will always regret, we live separate lives he has his things I hv mine we don't really have anything tht we share besides the sheets. I am not happy cos I feel tht I am only there for his convenience, we both have kids from previous relationships and our kids are treated differently when they visit us, and I don't believe in tht I believe tht all kids when they come to our house must get same treatment.

The other thing is he has a difficultly in helping me in many things so I actually don't see the point of staying with him anymore, I tried to break up with him and he begged me to stay by telling me how much he loves me and how much he needs me in his life, I realise tht I came back only because he begged me not bcos I wanted to in my heart. I want out but I feel bad cos I think it will break his heart but I am soo unhappy with him and I don't think its fair for both of us.

the problem is how do I make him understand tht I want out and I am not really interested in patching things up with him without hurting his feelings or him end up hating me or making my life difficult.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I really agree with Liza --- surely you both need, and deserve, some couselling such as FAMSA could provide --- to better understand yourselves and each other, and to find the fairest way to end a relationship that is apparently not meeting any of your needs, and probably far less of his needs than he thinks.
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