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04 Mar 2004

I'm almost over him... or am I??
I went out with this guy 4 1year & 8months. We broke up after he told me that he needed space. Fair enough I gave it 2 him. It appears the space that he needed was 2 b with sum1 else, we were not broken up for 2weekes when he was already in a new relationship. As they say rebound relationships r not healthy I refrained from getting involved as I am still inlove with him. We r still friends but he is a totally different person. 4 the 1st few month of his relationship he was happy and u could hear it in his voice. Lately when I speak 2 him he does not answer me in more that five words at a time. He sounds depressed and tired. The problem though is now I realise what I am missing not having him in my life.. I want 2 make and keep him happy. I miss him terribly. It has been 4months now, but I still cry 4 him every night. Now that the inevitable has dawned upon me... I realise that I'm not used 2 waking up & being by myself, I'm not used 2 coming home from work & no ones there, I'm not used 2 missing anyone and I am not used 2 getting no love. I'm not used 2 having no one ever touching me, I'm not used 2 this I want it how it used 2 be... I'm not used 2 loving and wanting someone so bad that I am willing 2 put my life on hold just in case he wants 2 come back...
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear Nics,
yes, as you imply, sometime when your bf asks for "space" they allow another person to move in to that space, and that's not fair. It is NOT your task in life to make this guy happy --- that's up to him. What he did to you was hurtful and unloveable, and doesn't deserve respect or further love. Do NOT put your own life on hold until he might want to come back, perhaps temporarily.
Quite seriously, get a dog or cat -- they love you unconditionally, they do NOT ask for "space", they are always delighted to see you come back from work, they give you loads of love and cuddles, and they don't lie. Much safer than trusting the untrustworthy, like this guy.
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