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21 Sep 2009

In love with 2 men - 2
Thanks Ditto. I dont have many friends and I am sure I am confusing this " love"  I feel for friendship as I have not had either many times in my life. I love the attention he gives me. How can that be wrong? Its not sexual in nature.

CS : I dont see thinking about someone else is cheating. I am not thinking about sex, leaving my family etc. So how can that be cheating? He is one of my suppliers for more than 6 years, so yes, there is a genuine reason for our contact via sms or phone, like I have with dozens of other people. We had just never met face to face before this. As stated above, I dont have many friends and this social club is important to me as its the 1st place I have ever really felt I belonged. Why give it up because I am confused by another person?
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01 Jan 0001

Is it ever "wrong" to love getting attention ? Maybe --- all pleasure isn't unarguably and always great --- taking dangerous drugs may give some temporary pleasure, but its also likely to destroy one's life. Transforming oneself into a very high maintenance person, moving from wanting to expecting to demanding high levels of attention, can simply make you unaffordable, financially or emotionally, for most of the people you would otherwise enjoy being with.
And chating is not entirely defined by physical sex, or even ne cessarily about sex --- if one allows oneself to become emotionally entwined with someone else, withdrawing some of the love from the relationship you are already committed to, that's surely a form of cheating --- though the people enjoying it rarely are prepared to see or concede that. Its a shame i you have no other way to make or meet friends that one particular social club --- but if so, can't you form more friendships, including friendships with women at the club, rather than more exclusively with one man ?
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