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08 Dec 2005

in love with my boss what a cliche
please help. i have strong feelings for my boss. i am married with a 6 yr old and i lie awake at night unable to get this guy out of my head. i am finding it very hard to deal with my feelings. i have tried ignoring them, i started playing piano, playing tennis, joined a gym etc, just to keep busy.

he initiated the flirting and i responded, i am as much at fault as he is. problem is the chemistry is explosive. i even dream about him and i am scared of sleep talking. all i want to do is sleep with him, thats all i can think about, but i don't because i don't want to compromise my marraige and i feel it would be so stupid to sleep with a man i see every day. i feel like i am living a nightmare. what can i tell myself so that i can come away from this unscathed and still keep my job (which i love and i need the money) and i don't want to upset him either. lately i have been short to the point of rude with him cause i feel vulnerable and confused.

i feel like i am on dangerous turf. i don't want danger and i desperately want what i feel for him to go away!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Chemistry is over-rated, and usually an excuse. Just say no --- tell him that his attentions are of course very flattering but you are hapilly married with a child you love greatly, so you cannot allow anything to come of this.
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