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04 Jan 2005

IN TWO MINDS
I'M A MALE OF 23. MY PROBLEM MAY SEEM SMALL, BUT IT IS EATING ME.
OF THE LAST 6 RELATIONSHIPS I HAD, THE LONGEST PERIOD WAS 1 MONTH AND 1 DAY.
ALL THE GIRLS WAS LOVELY,NICE AND INTERESTING, BUT FOR SOME REASON I ONLY STAY INTERESTED FOR A WEEK OR TWO. I'M NOT A PLAYER AT ALL, AND FEEL REAL STRONG EVERYTIME. I'M SURE THAT THIS TIME IT IS NOT GOING TO BE THE SAME, BUT IT ENDS UP THAT WAY.
IS IT THAT IT JUST AINT THE RIGHT GIRL, OR IS IT SOMETHING ABOUT ME.
NOTHING IN MY PAST HAPPENED WHERE I GOT HURT.ALL OF MY EX-GIRLS AND MYSELF ARE STILL GOOD FRIENDS.
THERE IS THIS ONE GIRL NOW.THE MOST AWSOME GIRL, AND WOULD DO ANYTHING FOR ME.2 WEEKS AGO I THOUGHT THIS IS THE ONE, BUT NOW I DON'T FEEL THAT WAY ANYMORE.
MUST I HOLD ON TO HER, OR IS IT UNFAIR TO USE HER AS A EXPERIMENT.
PLEASE TRY AND GIVE ME SOME LIGHT AT THE END OF A VERY DARK TUNNEL.
THANK YOY.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Hard to tell from this distance, DK, but this is the sort of situation in which personal counselling can help a lot. Even if it isn't "the right girl", it shouldn't be hard to remain interested in someone for more than a week or two. Maybe if you got into these relationships more slowly, you wouldn't exit them so rapidly ? It certainly would be unfair to :use" antyone else "as an experiment". Have you thought through what, in your mind, are the characteristics of someone being "the one", and who people who seem to have those characteristics somehow then seem to you not to have them ? Are you not perhaps making snap judgements, unsubstantiated, in each case ?
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