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03 Apr 2007

In two minds..
Hi everyone..just something buggin and i'd like to share and hope you comment or can advise on. I'v been working for the same company for 5 years now and would like to do something new..as in my own business. A hairdresser was on sale in Centurion the other day but after plenty negotiating it turned out the banks werent willing to loan me the sum i needed to purchase it. So, i'm sorta still reeling over that and trying to find something new, but at the same time am not exactly in a hurry to. I feel like the opportunity will reveal itself to me at the right time you know? So now in the meantime, my boyfriend who is extremely motivated and driven has decided to take this matter into his hands. Everything and anything he can find, concerning business and stuff he forwards to me via email or feels like chatting to me about. I'm saying i dont appreciate it, shame, he's just tryna help, but at the same time i feel like he's tryna turn me into someone i'm not - someone like HIM! I'm comfortable with what i'm doing, i cope well financially, i just want a change..but its not a nagging need and obsession, like it seems, it has become to him. In a sense I feel like he's more unhappy about where i'm at than i actually am..like he wishes i was more driven and get-go'er-ish..drive a fancy car, want to own a sandton home and shop for shoes at spitz!..when in actual fact thats what he wants for himself. How do i ask him to back-off without seeming bitchy or ungrateful? I know he wants whats best for me, i want that too..but at my own pase!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Have you tried having a general chat with the bank about what sort of business they might be prepared to help you start, or about what criteria they use and how you could better prepare yourself to be eligible for a loan ? Don't let your bf push you into something you're not ready for, however, and discuss this concern with him
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