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11 Feb 2004

Indecisiveness ???
Hiya

How can I get over my indecisiveness over things? Everytime I wanna do something, I can't decide straight away... im always oohing or aahing... I dunno... like..

If I do do it, i'll have regrets...but if I don't do it...I'll have regrets...like today... I went to buy a pair of shoes... I came home with nothing.. i'll probably go and get the pair that I saw... it's such a waste of time!

Please advice

Johnny Decision
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear JD,
I'm not sure. One the one hand you might ... But on the other hand ....
With minor decisions, you'll often find that it doesn't actually matter a darn WHICH of the two choices you make --- if there are two pairs of shoes which seem OK, and are comfortable --- take either, flip a coin. Or both. it won't matter. If it really doesn't matter --- ten the choice may as well be random.
But if the decision DOES matter, and is about something more serious, with significant consequences, sit down with a pen and paper --- write down the 2 leading choices, and under each, jot down the advantages and disadvantages of each decision. Weight them up, comparing one to the other, and whichever has more advantages which are realistic, worthwhile and likely, and less disadvantages, is the best one to take.
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