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19 Apr 2006

infidelity-how to get over it?
I have been married for 8 yrs and my husband has cheated on me twice in these 8 years. I forgave him both times, but even so I still can't forget. Each day I think I have made peace with it, but I constantly have memories of how he hurt and betrayed me. It's been like 3/4 months now and I still feel the anger of the first time he cheated on me.How do I get over the hurt and love unconditionally again?
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01 Jan 0001

As you've surely discovered, d, there's no easy answer to your question. And as you've also found, there's a difference between forgiving and forgetting. COunselling is the only fruitful route by which to work through this anger and grief, and set yourself free from being tied to these sad events in the past. And wouldnt joint mariage counselling be best, to ensure that he also understands what he did, its imact, and took significant steps towards making sure it doesn't happen again ?
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