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25 Nov 2004

Inlaws and christmas
Hi All. My wifes inlaws are great people dont get me wrong but they can also be so controlling so that everything must fit into there plans. We wife and I were going to try get the families togeter this year, though it would be nice.

Anyways to cut a long and irritating story short what we thought would be a joined famly one is now turning into a decision making one were we need to choose...as her parents have no problem with myne but dont want to be uncomforatble around my other family members(dont know them)! I have already asked my parents and Aunt and Uncle and there kids and now feel sorry for my wife as i dont want to make it difficult for her...

Anyways it a tough one as we dont want to have this over all our heads just before christmas!!!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I know the sort ! I agree with JM, that the first priority at Christmas, socially, ought to be to please yourself and your immediate family --- there's no point in making yourselves miserable to nmake others marginally happier.
If your inlaws just don't feel they'd be happy with the plans you have made for Christmas, then their presence isnt compulsory. Maybe have them round for New Year, instead ?
And where in the Bible did it say we were bound to entertain a bunch of lazy free-loaders ?
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