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19 Jul 2005

Introvert / Extrovert
Hey all - a bit of a strange q (well, questions...), but here goes:
What makes an introvert be an introvert, and vica versa? The obviuous answer is personality, but I mean, what makes some poeple more shy than others? Has it got to do with the environment they grew up in or the parents influence on your life when you were brought up? Can an intovert become an extrovert and when an individual is introverted, does that mean he/she is just shy?
On the flipside, why are some people more "people-persons" than others? Is this a skill that can be aquired (being able to communicate easier with other people)?

Losta questions I know, but you get the jist....
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Well, all of us have to have SOME sort of personality ! ( though I know some rather colourless people who just might be an exception to that rule !). Some people who have focussed a lot on this particula dimension of personality, like my old pal Hans Eysenck ( check him out through an online and library search ) saw almost everything in these terms. It does seem to be inborn, rather than related to one's environment or how one is treated as a child. Introverted doesn't mean the same as shy, and even extraverts may , for instance,d evelop a social anxiety disorder, and start feeling shy. An introvert is less interested in and less needy of contacts with other people, and more content with their own company ; more inward looking and aware of their own feelings and thoughts. They may not particularly want to be among other people, rather than a shy person who may dearly want that, but feels too nervous to let it happen.
And you don't need to ( maybe can't ) learn to become a people person in your heart and nature, but you can certainly learn to fake it well, to act comfortably and effectively in communicating with other people.
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