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21 Apr 2006

Invitation to expensive restaurant for birthday
One of my friends has sent out invitations for her birthday to this really expensive restaurant. All the guests will have to pay for themselves though which seems a bit much to expect. I don't think it is socially the right thing to give invitations when guests have to pay their own way. Not that I expect her to pay for all of us as she doesn't have alot of money but she could have had the birthday somewhere less expensive I think. I wanted to tell her that I thought people would be put off buy having to get her a present and pay for an expensive meal as well but I thought it would just offend her. Every year she organizes something like this for her birthday then wonders why people don't come. I don't really have the money to pay for this, it is going to be about R400 per couple but if I don't go she will be offended.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I think it is selfish and presumptuous to expect one's friends to pay very large amounts of money to celebrate your birthday. Friends can chose, themselves, how to celebrate it, and to invite you to their own choice of venue --- but if you invite people, and you chose the venue and the price, then you should pay for your guests. I'd send her a birthday card, and make a fairly obvious excuse for not attending the party.
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