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24 Feb 2004

is he just using me
ive been eith my b'f for 3 yars... we were engaged but just recently he told me he didnt want us to get married to just live together

every day b4he leaves for work he gives me a list of "chores" to do and if i dont do them he wont talk when he gets home from work.. he will just sit on the couch in silence. and when i talk to him he will either just grunt or give me one word answers!

I work full time and alot of the time my job is stressful.. i just want to come home and relax but latley ive been running around like an escaped mental patient trying to have every perfect for when he gets home later .. usually 9 PM. I get home at 4.30 so i supposed he thinks hat its easier for me cos i get home earlier than he does...
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

conf,
Well, the arrangement sounds fine for him --- a live-in housemaid he can sleep with. But what's in it for you ? As he has now broken the engagement and the implied promise to marry you, that's an excellent opportunity to break i off with this selfish little man. Otherwise, wife makes an excellent suggestion about the sort of list you could give him. Maybe he is being stressed at work, but shifting the stress onto you, rather than sharing his with you and yours with him, is using you. maybe he's capable of improving, but you need to make it clear that he must do so.
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