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20 Jul 2005

is it a guy thing?
i was with this guy for about a year, things were great at times but he would always cheat on me. I don't get it, I did alot of things for him(sorta like a house wife) i fell in love but it seemed like he never even cared. then one day he juss dropped me for this girl he's wanted for so long, i felt like shit cuz he was such and ass to me and hes the sweetest thing to her. and now hes started cheatin on her with me but he doesn't like wut hes doin so y do it. i just don't understand him at times. hes the kind of person that says i love you and then the feeling is gone in a matter of days, how can you be with someone for a year and pretend it never happen, get a g/f and then cheat on them with you. does anyone out there get him?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Cheaters cheat, like dogs bark --- it usually isn't at all about you. And falling in love with him, doesn't make him fall in love with you. BUT, having experienced the pain of him cheating on you with her, why on earth do you cheerfully let him cheat on her with you ? Can't you see what a rat he is, and how much better off BOTH of you would be without such a callous user ? His saying "I love you" is no more meaningful than a dog's barking --- what matters is that he doesn't DO "I love you" --- what he DOES says, loudly, "I couldn't actually care less about you except when I feel like using you. "
Why bother trying to udnerstand him, when you need to be moving rapidly away from him, and looking raher for someone genuine, rather than this genuine phoney ?
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