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15 Jul 2005

iS IT A SIGN OF SEXUAL ABUSE OR HE'S JUST BEING NAUGHTY????????
MY SON IS SEVEN YEARS OLD. WHEN HIS DAD IS NOT HOME THEN HE SLEEPS WITH ME, WHAT I HAVE NOTICED IS THAT WHEN WE SLEEP WELL HE HOLDS ME OF WHICH I HAD NO PROBLEM WITH, BUT NOW HE TRIES TO TOUCH MY PRIVATE PART AND MY BUMS ALL THE TIME AND NOW HE LOOKS LIKE HE'S ALWAYS AWAKE JUGDING BY THE WAYS HE ALWAYS TOUCHES ME AND HE IS ALWAYS WAKING UP TO GO AND PEE, HE LOOKS LIKE HE NEVER LIKE REALLY SLEEP, IS HE JUST BEING NAUGHTY OR THESE ARE SIGNS THAT MYBE HE IS BEING SEXUALLY ABUSED? THAT'S ALL HE DOES AND NOTHING ELSE, MOST OF THE TIME HE IS AT MY MOM'S AND SOMETIMES SLEEPS WITH MY MOM OR MY YOUNGER SISTER, DO YOU THINK THEY MAYBE TOUCH HIM AND NOW HW THINKS HE CAN ALSO JUST TOUCH? PLEASE ADVICE ME AS I AM VERY WORRIED AND THINK I SHOULD ALSO LET HIS DAD KNOW ABOUT THIS. PLEASE GUYS LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK AS I AM TERRIFIED ABOUT THIS
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Please grasp one fact, folks, apart from obvious severe physical damage, there are NO "signs" of sexual abuse --- no signs that don't occur also in other conditions and situations.
It might be a good idea to discourage your son from sleeping with you at this age, and to enjoy sleeping in his own bed. It sounds as though he is becoming rather sexually curious and exploratory. Its POSSIBLE of course that something may have happened between him and your mom or your younger sister, or maybe one or other of them sleeps very deeply, and he's managed to get away with it there and is trying it here.
Isn't it time to sit down pleasantly with him, in no mood of crisis or terror, and to talk calmly with him about how you have noticed this, and wonder what it's about. It may be time to start talking with him about sex and his curiosity.
And Gob bless you too !
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