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08 Dec 2005

Is it compulsive eating or just bad manners?
I have a problem with a collegue of my mine. We have a lot of social functions a year and this time of year it is not so uncommon. She is a spinster of 52 years. She embarrass me a lot because at functions she would put as many food as she can on her plate. She would not even wait for the table prayer. She would go for second helpings before the first rounders even helped themselves. She would even gatecrash functions where she is not invited. The staff has complain to me about this several times because I am her supervisor (and I took it up with her. It reaches a stage where I do not invite her or even took her to functions where she is invited. She even take leftovers that I usually leave to the cleaning ladies.I even see this tendency a bit in my bachelor brother. Is it plain stingy of her?. Should I just ingnore this?. Do single persons as they grow older "lose manners regarding food"?. Am I wrong in not inviting her to functions?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Surely as her supervisor you need to make it vry clear to her that her obvious greed is embarrassing to everyone and is unacceptably bad behavior. It is inconsiderate and unjustifiable. Other single people, of whatever age, do not behave like a pig at the food trough. And she should be told that if she does this at ANY other function she will no longer be invited to any of them, and if she gate-crashes, at any function to which she was not invited, you will call security to have her forcibly removed. And that you are considering making an announcement before the table prayer warning guests that she is present, and usually works her way down the buffet table like a creepy-crawly pool cleaner, and that they should be careful not to get in the way of her mouth. And tell her that she is not allowed to take any food home from functions, as this is the prerogative of the cleaners, and if she does take any it will be considered as stealing and deal with accordingly. she needs to learn to behave and to remember the many genuinely hungry people in this country, who are indirectly paying for her food.
If these are business functions, then such misconduct ought to be treated like any other office misconduct, with a formal warning and disciplinary procedures.
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