Background: I'm a 27 year old male focussed on my carrer. I've been in a monogamous relationship for 4 years. Together we have bought a house and are planning to get married and start a family. She is 31 years old with a hisory of failed relationships.

Problem: I recently accepted a job in another town 170km away. i don't own a vehicle yet which makes life a bit difficult when i have to go home over the weekends. Before i moved, our relationship was fairly solid despite the few arguements every now & then. We used to talk about it but now we only argue. I accepted the job with the intention that it would improve our financial situation & later we could look for a job for her. She did not want me to accept the job and did not want to move. Now it seems that whenever something doesn't go exactly the way she wants it to go, it's my fault. She thinks that my job is more important to me than our relationship. It feels as if she is trying to emotionally blackmail me. I also feel guilty for thinking about leaving her cause i do love her.