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09 Nov 2006

Is Mid-life Crisis in a man a myth
Where do I start.... I have just turned 44, been married for 18 years and two days after my birthday, my husband has asked for a divorce stating that he cannot live in a loveless marriage!!!
He has a history of alcohol abuse, which has lead to sexual impotency. He in totally incompetant with money and has amassed a huge amount of debt.
I know that I should be greatful that he is leaving me, my mind says that it is that right thing to do but but heart seems to be lagging behind. We have a 17 year old daughter and a 14 year old son together.
Just after he told me that he wanted out - he started seeing this 50 year old blonde thing, whom I think is just after drinks, and comes home telling me all the details. I have kicked him out of the bedroom and he is still going out every other night, coming home late and rubbing his new found "love" in my face.
I am really battling to sleep, eat and work - What do I do about his current behaviour...... is this a little mid-life crisis ???
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

A mid-life crisis is allowed, but not compulsory ; one can choose to have a crisis at any age. With his history of alcoholo abuse, financial incompetence and impotence, he's not in a strong position to demand love, and clarly has a host of problems he needs to attend to seriously, for his own sake, as well as for yours and for the sake of the kids. The last think he needs is a 50-year-old blonde ANYTHING. With all those debts, how can he afford the alcohol, let alone the blonde ? Is she aware of his money problems ? Such knowledge might make her lose interest rather rapidly. Could you persuade him to join you in some marriage counselling, eg through FAMSA ?
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