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04 Mar 2004

Is She the love of my life & possibly my wife 2 be ?
Dear CyberShrink,

I guess the subject describes it all. But here is the history:

I’m 25, and been single for about 3 years now and unfortunately I don’t do one “night stands” I was happy with my life, although I was longing for someone.

3 months back I met a beautiful lady witch I fell in love with, It felt like a “match made in heaven”….. (Now for the “BUT “ ) but recently I seem to have a bit of a problem with the old question: Is She the right Person for me.

What bothers me the most is that I know I love her and had a question like this.

To be honest, the more I get to know her, I realize that she is far from the person I thought I would have a relationship with. But I painted that girl in an idealistic world .
I do love her a lot and it feels if I can spend the rest of my life with her.

The good thing about our relationship is that we do communicate. She is well aware of how I feel, and strangely enough, she has the same question.

We have our differences regarding, religion; how to get married (Yep we spoke about it )

According to me there is two places that I think with: My heart and my head. And normally my head make all the decisions.

Is Love enough to make the important decision if we should go on? Or is 3 months to early to make such a big decision like this.

With Regards
allaycat
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear Alleycat,
There is absolutely nothing "unfortunate" about not doing one-night-stands --- wise, maybe. Tasteful, perhaps.
Sounds like you need to take your time, and see how compatible you two are, in practice. There's a difference between waiting forever for the fantasy woman to arrive ( they very rarely do, any more than fantasy men ride up on white horses ) and finding s really nice and compatible person who is genuine and real and loving as well as loveable. 3 months is a little early -- you're not signing a contract yet. See how it goes.
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