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13 Dec 2004

is there a love life after having a baby
my baby is now 11 months and i want to know if its advisable to have a relationship with somebody else who is not the baby's father. or will it affect the baby negatively?

i met another guy and fell in love with him, but we dont have a relationship yet, we are friends. i would love to start a relationship with him but im scared and i dont know how it will affect my baby. this guy has got everything that i want in a man. its just unfortunate that he came when im already a single mum. so, what should i do? i think about him all the time and this has been going on for 7 months.

it was my wish to settle down with the baby's natural father, but unfortunately i feel nothing for him. or maybe its because we had a 9 year relationship and now im too used to him?

truly speaking the babys father does not meet my criteria. or should i marry him just because of the baby?

please give suggestions
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01 Jan 0001

Dear Phellicia,
There must be love life after having a baby, or ther'd be no second children in any family. Children do thrive better if they are in a stable family, rather than one in which they're never sure which of a number of men might be Daddy. It's not wise to have a baby with someone until you're certain that you love them and vice versa.
It won't much benefit the baby for yuou to enter a loveless marriage. If you think your relationship with the baby's father might work out, why not work in marriage counselling, with him, and see if it's realistic ?
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