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06 Feb 2004

Is there something wrong with me?
There are plenty of guys who ask me to go have coffee with them. I'm single and in the past i thought why not, what do i have to loose. Now i tell them sorry i have a boyfriend because all the guys i have had coffee with want more from me than just friendship after drinking coffee with them only once. One wants me to fly to C.T to meet his family, the one wants to spend every minute of the day with me ect ect. They don't even know me so well. The one guy sent me red roses the next day and when i reacted to it he said he was only being friendly. I'm not looking for a boyfriend at the moment.I've just come out of a relationship with a guy who cheated on me.
Is there something wrong with me?
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01 Jan 0001

Dear Nadia,
Just goes to show that caffeine has more side-effects than we recognized ! There's nothing wrong with you. Maybe you're just naturally irresistable --- maybe in some way you don't recognize, perhaps due to having recently lost a relationship, you communicate a sense of being emotionally needy or open for a relationship, which they want to help with. Maybe they know your istory, and are trying to exploit the situation. Who knows ?
Whatever, can't you just say, calmly and pleasantly, when they make any such suggestions -- thanks, that's flattering, but I've just come out of a painful relationship, and I'm absolutely not ready to start another one yet. ?
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