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30 Jul 2010

Is this a MAN thing or is he an idiot?
Let me try &  make this simple &  not too long. Been living with my fiance for 3 yrs &  no matter what we argue about we alwasy end up fighting about MONEY. Allow me 2 give a little back ground so you can understand why i ask the above ques. I ask him y he does not help me around the house as i feel like i am the maid. I cook, do dishes, washing tidy up on days that the maid is not there. He feels i dont do the washing as the machine does??
He will ALWAYS reply that he pays the rent, water &  lights and the maid.
On average he will do dishes 1nce a mont and he feels thats enuf as he pays rent etc.
When i DARE to mention that I buy ALL the groceries he will reply by saying that it was the arrangement when we moved in.
NOW - hear me out - I feel that i contribute alot financially but he does not c it that way.
in 2008 - I paid for half our annual leave as he was unable to.
in 2009 I paid for a cruise as well as a long weekend away.
this year i opted to sit thisone out and see what he does... NOTHING. Says we cant afford to go away.
At least twice a month I pay for dinner - I get tired of cooking.
Y does he feel it such a nessicity to say that he pays rent and that it should be unuf and that i shld be happy with that?
I have now decided to keep record of everytihng I buy for the house and do. Let me just say that i VERY seldom spend money on myself - most of what i do goes towards the house, pets and him and my 21 year old lazy son.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

It's NOT a "man thing" - he's lazy and spoiled. Maybe his mom did everything for him, and he has larned to expect that from the women in his life. Why on earth do you agree to indulge this selfish and lazy guy ?
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