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12 Oct 2009

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Hi CS!

I' m not sure what to think.
My bf has a really short temper, I just stay away from him when he is in one of his moods.
In the begining he would shit me out, because he is in a bad mood. Snap at me, just be totally ' according to me'  rude.
He says he has never been rude to me but I like to nag.
Anyways I' ve gotten to know him beter and know when to just back off and give him some time to cool off etc.

No the thing is I have noticed for the little while that I do spend with his family that he is really snappy with his mom.
I was there she asked him to do something for her.He answers with this type of attitude like, just leave me alone I' m busy!
I don' t know it just seems to me the little interaction that I have seen was like he treats her like a little child, Like a nuisance.
I have told him this wknd thats what I think and then he asked me if I' m trying to suck up to my future mother in-law.
We getting married next year.

I know that you judge a guy by the way he treats his mother and thats the way he will treat you.
I don' t really speak to him mom as I kind of don' t really understand what she says most of the time, I just say ' yes'  ' yes'  to most things, Language thing, so not too close to her.

I' m scared that if I get married to him he I will get the same treatment his mom does but then again I won' t know this until I get married to him.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Sorry, folks, but as I have to rush to Durban for an emergency, this forum was supposed to have been closed from Noon Monday, and has only been left open by mistake. So it will be extremely difficult for me to respond to all questions before Friday.
I'm not sure of the rule you quote --- some guys are so busy treating their mother superbly, they don't have enough time left to treat their partner as well. Why not see a couples counsellor together and work this all out together with expert help ? If he is snarty to his mom AND to you right now, there's otherwise no chance he'll change after you marry him
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