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21 Jan 2009

Is this wrong...
Hi there,
To cut a long story short, I am a 24yr old female and i have feelings for an older man. He is 41yrs old divorced with 1 kid.
He is a wonderful guy sweet,caring and we get along really well. He has absolutely know idea how i feel and i have no intenetions of telling him right now. Is it wrong to feel like this about a man 17yrs my senior? please any advice?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

While no relationship which may have some built-in problems should be rushed into, mere age difference alone should not make a relationship fail. Its not WRONG to like an older man. If your feelings aere unrealistic, or based on factors other than him himself ( such as wanting a father-figure ) then the relationship would be at risk as would any other based on unrealistic assumptions.
Whatever it is you feel you don't want to tell him now, there's no genuine relationship if he doesn't know how you feel and if you refuse to discuss this with him
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