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27 Jul 2005

it is not save to go back in the water
So as some of you would know, last year 2004, was hands down probaly the worst year of my life, ending in november with the passing of my mom, then desember me getting back with the love of my life, and yes things started to look better. with the strawberry on my milkshake and the cheese in my cgheeseburger being me getting engage'd march this year and finally most of my debt being paid off in the last 3 months and and and, things looking up.

then WHAM, monday 8:20 in the morning my dad dies, saturday before the rugby i last saw him in a good state, happy and looking forward to watching the game, and monday he is dead, gone, no more, i'm officialy an orfen. fvck, what next, for fvck sakes, give me a break !!!!

what i want to say, love those that you love cause they might not be there when you look around.

and get all the fvcking paperwork sorted, you will not believe how you need it when you need it.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Hello Blackbird,
It is good to hear from you again, though I'm very sad to hear of your loss and grief. I've had a rotten year also, so far, and I understand that sense of disaster following disaster, and wondering what'll happen next. Your conclusions are so true --- love your loved ones every chance you get, as we never know when we might lose them. At least, though the sidenness of the loss is more painful for you to deal with, it sounds as though it may have been better for him, at least he was able to enjoy the rugby and look forward to more good games, without a longering illness.
And Oh, so right, about the paperwork. I remember handling my own father's estate, what a struggle it was, and the bank made so many mistakes I had to correct. years back, I wrote a book The Facts of Death, which specificially advised, with guidelines, how to draw together all the important paperwork in one's life, and how to organize it so as to make it easier for whoever had to tidy up after us. Brilliant advice, which I must take, myself, some day
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