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30 Jan 2004

My boyfriend and I broke up in May last year and I was suprised at how quickly I (though) I got over it.
Now he seems to be having a good time with a few lady friends and I am insanely jealous - even though I don't want him back. Why is this happening to me? I have moved on, I am having fun and enjoying life so its not as though I have nothing better to do that fret and worry if he has a better life than me.

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01 Jan 0001

Dear JJ,
When a relationship breaks up ( as when a death occurs ) --- if you seem to get over it really quickly, then either there was atually no really loving relationship at all, or one has not really got over it, but has just found a temporary way of avoiding the pain one needs to work through before reaching the other side. However happy a life he now manages to lead ( and it's probably not as good as it looks from your angle ) --- why shouldn't he be happy now ? It doesnt reduce in any way the amount of happiness you can feel and achieve for yourself. if you can't get over this on your own, see a counsellor to get this necsary job done more effectively and efficiently.
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