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29 Jan 2008

Jealousy
HI there.
I am looking for advice...help...anything!!! I am very jealous. Well actually my husband and I both. I was never the jealous type until I met my husband. I can't stand it to see him talking to any female even if she's a friend of mine. (Not that I have many, coz i'm too jealous!). I get really angry when I see girls (mostly naked girls) on his computer and also porn. It feels to me as though he is cheating on me and that he doesnt respect me. I feel betrayed! I told him before we got married (I found porn in his cubboard) that if he wants to watch porn, he has to include me, coz to be honest, it turns me on. He promised me that he is not into porn and that he will never lie to me. But just last week I found more porn on his pc. When I asked him about it and why he didnt want to watch porn with me, he accused me of being a lesbian!!! Just by watching porn??? please explain to me???
I trust my husband and I know he will never cheat on me, but I dont like the idea of another girl liking him or boosting his ego! I go out of my mind when i only think of it! I dont want to be jealous! I want a good self esteem! I dont want to feel inferior the whole time. I was an underwear model and men do look at me whenever I go out shopping. But its not enough.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

See a marriage counsellor together and work on all the elements of this problem, which is not really about porn. and see a CBT counsellor yourself to work on your self-esteem and confidence And think about what KL said
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