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06 Nov 2006

kicked him out but feel guilty
i posted last week about a selfish boyfriend who always seems to be having endless financial problems and expects me to sort it out for him. he is also not even supporting our child properly. last week he decides to have a tantrum on me, by accusing me of not being suppotive and treating him badly in my house. i mean he has been staying with me past three months, having a plate of food, clean laundary, electricity and water, even using my car. i mean really. he then tells me that if i want him out i should just tell him to move, cause he's got a lot of space he can go to and i shoudnt let him stay because of pity ... how arrogant??
i just lot my mind and told him to fukk off and well, pack his staff and go. he packed whilst making guilt trips and saying im rude and selfish.

i feel so relieved that i had the courage to do that, but sometimes i cant help but feel like .. did i kick the dog when its already down. i know he was really struggling, financially, and didnt even have transport. i do sometimes feel guilty and being so nasty isnt part of my personality...
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Tell him that as he shows no appreciation for the loads of support you have been giving him, he should move out and find another supporter. GOod for you for having thrown him out --- keep him out. COngratulations on finding the courage to do that. he was a dog, but he wasn't down, and had no intention of getting any further up except at your expense. Don't feel guilty --- he asked for what he got. Now let him at last take responsibility for himself
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