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16 Jul 2008
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Kitchen control freak
Dear CyberShrink,
I'm struggling to allow my husband to help in the kitchen. It is very selfish of me and I would like your advise on how to change this. When I'm tired and just aiming to finish up, I'll rather just do everything myself so I know all is in place when I wake up the next morning. He offers to help so I know I should let him, I just don't know how to let go. I know I shouldn't link kitchen cleanliness to my mood but it is linked. Because I push myself to hard I get irritated so I spoil our time together instead of enjoying it. We have been married for 10 years and are such a happy couple, however I know I'm frustrating him in this regard.
I'm struggling to allow my husband to help in the kitchen. It is very selfish of me and I would like your advise on how to change this. When I'm tired and just aiming to finish up, I'll rather just do everything myself so I know all is in place when I wake up the next morning. He offers to help so I know I should let him, I just don't know how to let go. I know I shouldn't link kitchen cleanliness to my mood but it is linked. Because I push myself to hard I get irritated so I spoil our time together instead of enjoying it. We have been married for 10 years and are such a happy couple, however I know I'm frustrating him in this regard.
CyberShrink
Maybe you have a rather obsessive-compulsive / controlf reak personality. Is it only ion the kitchen that you are excessively concerned about everything being in a specific place ? Why not see a marriage counsellor together to try to sort this out ? Or maybe a personal CBT counsellor for you, as a start
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