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23 Nov 2005

Lazy, demanding partner
We will be married soon (Dec.). I'm 29 and he is 32 and work for same company. He knows my work schedule pretty well but as soon as we get home, he takes off his work clothes, gets into shorts, look for the newspaper sport section and yes, you guessed it: grab the remote and switch to channel 23. I cannot take it anymore. I hug the little one (3), check what could be cooked, chop chop and chop. All he does is watch highlights of Real Madrid and Barcelona then fall asleep with a remote in his left hand. Sounds familiar? I know, but I just CANNOT take it anymore. He doesn't bring home more money, so beautiful people, will it ever change? Believe me I tried talking to him but it falls on deaf ears. Pls help!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Stop making his supper, have the little one's food ready in advance, pick up some fast food for yourself only on the way home, and beat him to the couch, choose your own channel, and hide the remote.
And in the ensuing conversation, explain very pleasantly what these problems are. It's not only that men aren't mindreaders ( important a point as that is ) but they're -- shall I say --- emotionally short-sighted, and need halp, with the basics spelled out in rather large letters, ro be able to see the point.
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