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16 Jan 2013

Leave of fight??
Hallo, i met a wonderful guy during the past year, and grew to know him a bit better than all my previous friends. He is a great person but very very shy and " disappears"  for weeks on end. No contact etc from him.

Something developed between us and we could feel the connections, physically and spiritually. But then one day about a month ago he mailed me stating that he thinks there should be nothing between us anymore, although he admitted to heve feelings for me.

It baffels my brain that a mature guy can be so scared of even commitment to a relationship/friendship, he lieterally disappeared again now. In the past month only heard from him four times, and none out of his own account.

I''m used to him not phoning, sms''ing or mailing, but after what we went through before his shocking revelation, I really expected a bit more.

Am I a fool to hope for something in the future or should I also ignore him like he does? What can I do to help our friendship develop? I never asked for a relationship, but a close frienship.

My kid met him, and is totally mad about him. Just like his mommy, please give me some advice.
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01 Jan 0001

There could be many different reasons for this apparently puzzling behaviour. If anyone decides to end a relationship, they do owe it to the other person to at least calmly try to discuss and explain their decision. But many people can't work out how to do that or fear making a mess of it.
But fighting for someone to stay with you is never useful - if its needed, then they are not with you anyway. Let him go. If he returns, re-evaluate the possibility. If he has to be locked in to remain around you, he was never yours, whatever it seemed to be
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