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27 Oct 2006

LIES LIES AND MORE LIES
PLEASE COULD YOU HELP ME I AM WITS END MY SON IS 23 AND WORKING FOR US BUT HE DOES NOT WANT TO TALK TO US AND THERE SEEMS TO BE A MAJOR PROBLEM SINCE HE STARTED GOING OUT WITH THIS GIRL ABOUT 2 YEARS AGO HE SEEMS TO BE FALLING INTO A BOTTOMLESS PIT OF TROUBLE SHE IS VERY DOMINEERING AND DOES NOT WANT HIM TO HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH HIS FAMILY BUT NOW IT SEEMS AS THOUGH HE IS IN FINANCIAL TROUBLE AS HE KEEPS LENDING MONEY FROM US EVEN ALTHOUGH HE EARNS A GOOD SALARY WITH HOUSE LIGHTS AND WATER AS WELL AS TRANSPORT AND A DOMESTIC SERVANT AS WELL AS A GARDEN SERVANT NOW MONEY IS GOING DISAPEARING FROM WORK AS WELL AS WE HAVE FOUND ITEMS BEING SOLD TO SCRAP MERCHANTS PETROL GETS STOLEN HIS WORK IS SUFFERING AND WHEN CONFRONTED HE JUST TELLS MORE LIES WHEN I TALK HE GETS ANGRY I SUGGESTED TAKING HIM TO A PSHYCIATRIST BUT HE REFUSES HE SAYS ALL HE WANTS IS FOR US TO BUT OUT OF HIS LIFE AND LEAVE HIM ALONE HOW AS A MOTHER CAN I DO THAT AND SEE HIM HURTING AND NOT HELP PLEASE WHAT TO DO
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Tell him very clearly that he will NOT be allowed one cent more money borrowed from you --- that this loan shop is closing down --- that he earns more than enough to keep himself and create savings, not losses. And tell him that you are reporting the losses at work to the police for a full investigation --- and perhaps also to a private detective, and that if ANYTHING else goes missing and it appears to be his fault, he will be sacked and prosecuted.
He clearly doesn't want you to but out of his life --- he wants your home, your money, your help, and your job --- he just doesn't want you to protect yourselves from whatever he is doing --- he may be into drugs, or crime, or both, maybe also gambling as he must have somewhere he is wasting all that money.
Dont worry that you may lose him --- you have already lost him. The real issue is how to perhaps get him back --- and that will not happen if you continue to enable him to continue his life of drugs, and/or gambling and/or crime, which is what is happening at present
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