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18 Nov 2004

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My situation is as follows: my b/f and I have been going out for almost a year. We dated for about 2 months and then he moved in with me for 8 months. In that time we bought a house together to move into in April '05. However, the place we live in is only 1 b/room and we just got under each others feet, I felt like a housewife and the romance went out the window. Beginning of October he moved out, to ease this problem. However, we still do not get along as we did in the beginning. Today, I heard our house that we were supposed to move into next year has been cancelled. Is this a sign / fate or what? Is this God's way of not allowing us to live together again? I am so disappointed.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

In the old days people often waited far too long before moving on to the next step. But if you move in together after only 2 months, you probably don't know each other well enough to know if this could work out in the long term. And deciding to buy a house together in the earliy months, again before you know whether the two of you will be compatible over the long term, is rash. As you discovered, living together is far more difficult that most folks imagine, and sex is usually the easier part of it. When it gets down to who takes out the rubbish, who squeezes the toothpaste tube at the bottom, etc., romance can be hard to maintain.
It doesn't sound as if you two were really compatible --- move on, look more widely, and don't rush it next time.
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