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25 Nov 2004

living waiting
Hi I have a lovely little rented flat beautiful children and grand children dont work am partly disabled (have a wobbly neck from an accident and surgery in 2000 4 level fusion) my hubby of 30 years works far away from home only comes home for 2 weeks every 4 months...he has no choice its the only job he can get and we have no pension med aid etc BUT its hard, its very hard to carry the load and be cheerful to everyone and pretend all is ok at the same time keeping his spirit up...sometimes I think i will go mad - what a mess?? I have lots to be grateful for I know but often dont cope am I being stupid..
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01 Jan 0001

Hi sweetie pie !
Yes, indeed, it must be hard to carry the load. I sometimes wonder, seeing a crowd of folks all being jolly and cheery, how many loads each one is carrying, and how hard they're all working to convince all the others that there's nothing bothering them at all. And it's a pity that sometimes one gets stuck in a job with unsociable working conditions when one has little choice, as older and paler males tend to have less choice. Of course you're not being stupid at all. But, from the sound of it, lonely and lacking in handy support. Lee is right about the value of getting involved in charities and similar organizations, for companionship and to keep usefully occupied, with less time for feeling frazzled at home.
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