I'm looking for a therapist that will help me with issues that revolve around my sexuality, relationships and self esteem. I have tried 3 different therapists in the past year and two where a total waste of time. The third helped me with career guidance for next year, since he says that some of the problem stems from my feeling that I'm underachieving. Needless to say he has 6 degrees through Unisa, so counselled me to study through them next year.

Last year I was thoroughly committed to a girl and had my heart set on marrying her. I am 29 and she is 26. I have dated since I was 14, but I was her first boyfriend. We courted for 3 years and did not have sex during that period. She broke it off because she found out that I occasionally looked at porn and said this was being "unfaithful in my heart and mind".

Well, I was really broken up and very angry about it. I've struggled with my self-esteem a lot since then and also struggle to commit to a relationship. I've had some casual relationships this year but really would like to build towards having a single, loving relationship and falling in love again. I don't want to waste more time on worthless therapy sessions and need to find a professional that I can build trust with, who will challenge me and who really wants to help me get to a better place in my self.

I do not have a preference as to gender of the therapist, but would like them to be close-ish to Edenvale.