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08 Dec 2004

Lost both parents in 4 months
Hi
I just wanted to share this with everyone.Christmas is just around the corner & i would like to tell everyone to cherish the time with their parents as i have lost both my parents in the last 4 months.

I now realize that i could have spent alot more time with them & last christmas i went away for holiday instead of being with them.
Make the most with your families because you never know that next year they might not be around.

There is no next time so show them you care & love them because people like myself will never have that opportunity again.
I deeply regret the many times i never listened to my parents but its to late to change the past.

Everyday i cry but i can't bring my parents back & my regretting will never help me.

So remember to make the most of the time that you have left with your parents because they may not be around for the next Christmas.

Thanks
Regret



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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear Regret,
I'm very sorry to hear of your tragic experience. And you're so right to draw from it the important conclusion to cherish and enjoy so far as possible the provilege of being able to be with the ones we love, while we can, as we have no way of knowing how long that privilege may last.
But don't blame yourself, either, for being normal.
As for the future, sounds like you have an excellent uncle. Spending Christmas with uncle and family sounds like a very good idea. Consider selling the family home if it's really too big for you to manage on your own, and if there's a place you would like and be happy in, within the same cluster as your uncle, that might work out. generally I advise people to be cautious about making major decisions in the first months after a major bereavement --- too often, I see people sell up a business, sell houses, whatever, which only a few months later, they regret because they find the now need and want what they sold.
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