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01 Jul 2005

Lost interest
i have lost interest in my long term relationship of 11yrs, should we go for councelling or what can we do?

my boyfriend is 33 and im 32 and we have a 3yr old son.
im working and he is not working. he lost his job in jan 2004 and at one time last year he told me that he is not interested in applying for jobs.

now he wants us to marry cos his prevous employer promised him a job. but i feel that he has to pay his debts first and save money for lobola and other things.

he is a good guy, but what really frustrates me is when he does not talk and i hear things from other people ---like when stores call because hes owing.

i would like to save the relationship cos theres a baby. what can i do?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Why not go for counselling ? It could only help. Anything to do with his previous employer sounds like a daft reason for getting married before the proper preparations have been made, and before he gets a job.
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