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14 Dec 2004

Make him sleep!!!
Yup it's me again, the one with the 2 small kids. Last time it was the 4yr old acting up, now the 21 month old is driving me dilly. He goes down easily at night, in a big bed with bottle and blankie, but wakes every 2 hrs. I put a couple of bottles, (very weak juice) in his bed but he keeps waking for more. Even if he finds the bottle himself he still wants me. I don't talk or pick him up but once he sees me he's happy for another 2hrs. I'm exhausted. Dad left a yr ago, major manipulator, and is now starting to "drop the kids" - ie. not see them when he should. Do u think sleep disturbance could be emotional? Taking them to shrink on Fri to sort out emotional issues but I'm battling with sleep deprivation. Any ideas moms? CS - would controlled crying be good or more detrimental at this stage? I know they miss dad.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Isn't it interesting, as if they kids planned it, how they usually drive you dilly one by one, rather than getting it over with at the same time !
The shrink who examines them and gets all the details should be able to be very helpful ( if you don't fall asleep during the session ! ) I'm not sure about the "controlled crying" option. How about trying the cot in your room within sight, option, which might reduce the disruption ? And at that age, the kid might not be reacting so much to his own emotional problem about dad, but to yours --- they often sense when mom is stressed, and respond to that, rather than to their own direct perception of events.
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