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03 Mar 2004

Making me feel gulity
Hi there.just want to know if i'm going mad.
I am in a relationship for a year now and am truly happy and love the guy and can't imagine me with somebody else.
Recenlty one of my ex's who i still have contact with, who is also in a relationship, says he won't accept me get married, his girlfriend will never be me and he hopes we still have a chance, i was gum struck, never knew he felt like this and said your in a relationship how can you ever think that, and i'm truly happy in mine..No he's sms phoning me saying i'm being unfair??? I feel guilty cause i never want somebody to like me and still have feelings towards me, when i don't, don't think its right..Why do i feel like this and what the heck is he trying to do, he is 14 years older than me and quite wealthy, but i like him as a brother.
Hope you guys can give me some input
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear Paulina,
Sorry, but you're not going mad at all. But you are falling for a line of rubbish from this self-centred guy. Your relatonship with him was, and is, OVER. Don't by the crock of spit he's selling you that you're somehow unfair to him because you didn't spend the year in a nunnery, waiting for him to change his mind. It's not your fault that he's being immature and silly. How he chooses to feel about you is his responsibility, not yours -- and you've done nothing in this year to influence it.
if I were you, I'd change my phone number, and tell him to stop calling --- that he left, you have gone on with your life and are very happy without him, and don't want or need him back in your life, but you wish him well in finding a new relationhip with anyone except you. Don't dither, which would only make it harder for both of you --- ake it clea that it's over, ans as they say in the rules of all competitions you might enter "No corespondence will be entered into about the results of the contest".
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