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19 Mar 2003

Making up with husband
Me and my husband have been seperated for about 3 months.He had an affair with someone and admitted that what he have done.He lived with his mother for the three months.I moved in my own place one month ago and then asked him to come and live with me.I still love my husband and he said he will never cheat on me again but i never believe him and as hard as he try i could never trust him again.I dont no what is wrong with me i want him to move out again.He is a party animal when weekends come he is never at home he will go to his friends come home late morning hours and drunk he said he was trying his best but i dont think that is his best if he wanted this marriage to work out he would have spend it with me.Sometimes i feel like talking about what had happened and he will just say he dont want to talk about it.Duriing the week he is so sweet.He will do anything for me all that will keep him indoors weekends is a few movies.I dont no what to do sometimes i feel like i just want to give up on working on this marriage and sometimes i feel like we can work out our differences.But then on the other side i will always be the one asking him what it is that he is expecting from me then he will say there is nothing that he expects from me i am just fine like i am.All i want is a happy family.I attend school during the week at night and working during the day i just want to spend some quality time with him and i think spending quality talking with each other will do. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear poppie,
You two can work out your problems together --- if you both work on them, together. If he would be prepared to join you in marriage counselling, things could work out well. But if he is sweet during the week when you have litle time to be together, and then insists on spending the weekends partying without you, and getting drunk, that hardly helps to get things worked out. It doesn't sound as if there's anything wrong with you : you feel ambivalent and a bit confused, because he is speaking and acting in ways which are contradictory, and being thoughtful and thoughtless. If he's serious about healing the marriage, he should be prepared to work sincerely with you in marriage counselling.
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