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16 Nov 2004

male friends.....
Hi CS and all,

It's been a long while since I felt the need to post and ask advice. Hope things are going well with everybody. I have made two new male friends. Yup I know I wanted more but we spoke about that and seeing as they both are also currently getting out of previous relationships we decided that friendship is what will work. That's fine, what boggels me is why do I always end up as the "buddy" they are pretty decent guys and I have to give advice regarding the ex'es and I'm good enough to have around as company but why am I not content with that ?? I know that they and I are lonely and that as a friend I have a lot more liberties than a "partner" which I actually enjoy more.... *smile* I know that I wouldn't want it to change... we are like brother / sister almost I was just wondering why they phone me when they get drunk or get lonely and stuff like that.... surely they have other mates or other female friends ? Or why do they phone me ? Just wondering....

thanks for feedback, have a good one

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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Hi cookie, Hey, you're a nice person, sympathetic, understanding and kindly --- who wouldn't want to ask you advice, as a buddy ? But be careful that this isn't ALL they want, in the sense both that they ought also to be interested in what you need and want, and in providing advice and support to you, and that the relationship shouldn't slip into a using / sefvicing arrangement to suit them rather than you.
Persist, though, in looking for the sort of longer-term and closer friend you're looking for.
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