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04 Mar 2004

MALES!!!
Please tell me what to do?ive got a boyfriend that gets lots of smses from friends esp girls.telling him how much they miss him,that they thinking bout him constntly and so forth!and honestly that doesnt bother me! but the problem is that when a male friend phones me,that i havent spoken to in a long time,my boyfriend flies off the roof!! accusing me of wanting the guy or being very secretive!!now imagine when an ex boyfriend-which is now good friends of mine calls!! when he gets calls from his exes i dont even flip!i respect his past relationships,but i cant understand why cant he do the same for me?i hardly get phone calls from my friends anymore (and tha includes females)!you no,not to long ago the mother of his child even spoke nonsense about me to him.honestly that did piss me off but being the person that i am, i didnt face her or shout or jump the roof!i didnt even say that he must avoid any contact with her!but why is he like that with me??i dont accuse him of being after every girl that phones or sms him!so why does he do to me?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear jazzy,
What pathetically empty little bimbos these girls must be to waste so much time and money on SMSs, let alone if they are actually thinking about him "constantly" what a shame that they don't instead get a real life, and stop cheating their employers.
Talk with him. Remind him that girls are NOT "all the same"m any more than men are "all the same" --- presumably he expects you to recognize him as a unique individual, and not as "al the same" as every other man you've met ? Clearly, he's much less grown up than you, and has a much lower self-esteem. He needs counselling, but would probably not accept that idea. Maybe he'd join you in some joint relationship counselling, if he saw it as sorting out your problems for his benefit !
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