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25 Jun 2010

Marriage and things
Hi Doc.
Please advise.
My bf and I plan on getting married next year.
What we want is to just get married.
No engagement no wedding nothing.
We have spoke about this and he wants the same only if I''m sure I''m not going to regret it. So this is what we have decided on.
The thing is I do not see why we should spent thousands of rands on a wedding for hundreds of family member we don''t even know. For people to come and then complain after the wedding about how the food couldve been nicer, or the colour scheme etc etc because honestly this is what people do.

I cant understand why people have weddings.
For me a wedding should be something to be celebrated with people you know and love.

So it was either no wedding or a small one but then alot of people will not be happy for not being invited.
So we stick with not having one.
Also things are so expensive these days I cant imagine spending a huge some of money that I caould use to furnish our whole house with on one day.

Yes I would love to have the photos etc but I think its majorly over-rated. Are we just being cheap or are there other people who fel the same?
All we want is a small affair with just our parents sibling and closest of close family that we know and who really cares about us.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I suspect there are more people who agree with you about the futility of spending huge sums on a fancy wedding party for other people, but who don't have the guts to say it or act on it.
There also seem to be far too many people who threaten to feel "hurt" if not invited to the shindig. I don't think you're being "cheap" at all, though some might say so - you're being practical and refusing to just automatically accept the traditional assumptions.
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