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14 Aug 2007

Marriage counselling
Hi there, Would you say it is advisable to seek marriage counselling even if it seems hopeless? My husband and I both have our own issues but now it seems that these issues have bled over into our marriage and he feels like the marriage is "killing" him. We've both moved back to our respective parents but I dont want to just give up and I dont think he does either. We're both willing to see someone for counselling. Could this help?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I feel its always worthwhile to seek marriage counselling, so long as both partners are sincerely prepared to work seriously with the counsellor to see what can be achieved. It shouldn't be seen as a form of glue that is determined to keep the pair together, but as a way of exploring all options to see whether indeed they can find a happier way of living and workign together --- and, if this is found not to be practical, at least THEN you are more soundly able to conclude sadly that the relationship may perhaps be hopeless, and to part in a more amicable way, with less bitternes, both having learned useful lessons, and better able to avoid similar problems in any future relationships.
FAMSA may be able to recommend some good local counsellors to you
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