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04 Oct 2009

Married &amp  have a thing for another man
Married, but there' s a guy that I like very much. I think about him all the time. For a year now that guy has been on my mind. He' s married but his wife lives in another country now. Last weekend he told me how much he liked me and he asked me to call him at his office. It' s like talking to him made all the feelings come back again. Now he' s on my mind more than ever before, I want to call him, I want to. I don' t want to have romantic ties with him but i want to be his friend. I like him so much and I realise my situation...yes I' m married and I don' t want to jeopardize my marriage. I' ve been thinking about calling him the whole of last week thinking I' ll get over it as soon as Saturday but the edge is still there. My friend said I should call him maybe he' ll turn me off. I want to call him I want to.
What do I do...HELP!!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

You are married and committed to your husband, so don't concentrate on liking anyone else. You don't need to "think about him all the time" --- that is something you choose to do, and you can choose stop doing so. And he too is married and committed to someone else. Do NOT call him, at his office or anywhere else, and don't indulge in these romantic fantasies. You know exactly what you ought to do, and that does not include calling him, ever.
If there are any problems in your mariage, sort them out, with the help of a marriage counsellor, if necessary.
Never forget --- if he is prepared to cheat her , he will be prepared to cheat you.
Good advice all round, especially from Wise Owl, LP< Almost Mad, etc.
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