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04 Feb 2004

Morele waardes
Miskien is ek besig om die forum te misbruik of die lesers se tyd te mors. Indien wel, vra ek byvoorbaat om verskoning.

Ek wil graag aan my kinders (8 en 6 jaar oud) 'n stel morele waardes oordra/vestig. Die eerste vraag is egter nou, hoe verduidelik ek aan hule wat 'n morele waarde is. Tweedens, hoe vestig ek in hulle morele waardes? Vanselfsprekend is 'n goeie voorbeeld uiters belangrik, maar is dit genoeg?
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CyberShrink
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01 Jan 0001

Dear Johan.
You're not wasting anyone's time, but asking an important question, and it'll be interesting to see what other readers suggest here.
I don't think that lectures on morals in the abstract, work -- indeed, they could help to convince the kids hat morals are something boring and abstract and not a part of daily life. I think there are two especially important aspects of what you want to achieve --- (a) you teach best by doing, by living acording to the moral standards you believe in. Kids pick up the contradictions in parents, for instance, who scold them for experimenting with dagga because chemicals are a bad idea --- but then themselves often get drunk, contradicting by their actions what they said in their words. and (b) it's more effective to discuss moral issues and how they apply, in relation to real life examples. When they read in the newspapers, or see things on TV, use the chances to talk about what they're seeing, and discussing why so many types of behaviour are a really bad idea --- not only because they are contrary to your moral values, but because they have negative consequences. and don't limit discussion only to negative examples --- when there are people in TV movies or the news who have done good things, talk about why those choices these people made were good.
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