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29 Jan 2004

Morning After ... "R"

I have been seeing this guy for about a year. we get along well and have taken things slowly. Feelings have grown strong over this time. Due to the slow nature of our relationship, we have only made love now ( a year later ).
It never seemed as though we needed to take that step because we felt we have forever together if that's what we want so why rush something so beautiful.

Last night we made love. It was wonderful.
I felt like we really connected.

Today I haven't heard from him, no call, no contact, avoiding my calls ....

We never miss a day of calling each other.

I feel completely confussed. What is going on ?

I feel like I've been hit by a 5Ton truck.
The rejection is awful. I'm aching inside ...

How do I handle this ??

Please help !
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01 Jan 0001

Dear R,
Whatever is happening, I very much doubt that you are being or have been, rejected --- though it does feel to you as if that's happened. Maybe after this unanticipated and major event withn your relationship, he isn't sure about what to say or do next, and unsure of how you feel about it, about whether apologies or congratulations are in order. Let it rest a litle, and then in a day or so, if you haven't heard from him, why not call him as you usually would have done, and in the same style and manner ? He may, of course, be feeling awkward, and worrying about whether, because you haven't called him, he could feel that he has been rejected.
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