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07 Dec 2004

Mother-in-law from Hell
I have a major problem - I just got enagaged last weekend and my day was almost ruined by my future mum-in-law. Within a span of a week, she turned into a b*tch from hell and she has a major attitude toward me. For a year, she was fine, just up until the engagement. When asked what the problem is, she just keeps quiet. My fiance approached her again this weekend and he told her off and that he doesn't want her at the wedding (which is in 3 months time). We had a fight as a result because he blames me for what her said to her! I'm begining to think he's a mummy's boy... He told me that he's loyalty lies with me - but now that it comes to the crunch - it seems his loyalty lies with his mum. He forget why he told off in the forst place. His mother has no right to treat me the way she whants to, whenever she wants to. I'm not prepared to put up with this woman nor am I willing to marry a mummy's boy. What am to do? Everything is in such a mess. If this her way of placing a spanner in the works, it's working because now I truly believe that she's doing the devil's work... just because she doesn't want to lose her son. What am going to do? Please help!
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01 Jan 0001

Sounds like he has an important choice to make. Some mothers, even if intellectually they think they're different, emotionally they can feel such a strong emotional bond to their son, that they don't allow themselves to recognize any other woman as good enough for him. Handy advice from been there, worth re-reading !
It's a key concept that she needs to realize that whatever she does, is not going to be allowed to succeed in breaking up you two --- that her choice isn't --- cuddle sonnyboy forever, or lose him totally ; her choice is actually between -- being adult about this and having a good mature relationship with married sonny and his wife, or lising him completely. The eternal cuddle isn't an option. Success at this depends on whether he has been able to grow up enough to be adult about this himself, and to work with you on giving his mom the message she needs, and avoiding the cuddle-trap
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