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17 Jul 2008

Mother in-law problems
I' m sure there is a few people that will relate to my problem. My husband and i have been together for 9 year now and i love him more that the first day i met him. I will never in my life consider to leave him as i know he is my soul mate.

My only problem is my in-laws. In the beginning of our relationship i gave 110% to them to get them to accept me into his life. I always had a sort of good relationship with my father in-law but not with my sister in-law and mother in-law.

I can with all that i am say that i loved and respect my mother in-law until about 4 years ago. I was pacient with her as i was thinking she just needs to get use to me that is way she was treating me like an outsider. But 4 year ago i lost my temper and we had a big fight. She told me " if your mother did not give you enough attention when you were a child do not come and look for it by me. I am not your mother and will never be"  That broke my hear in 10 peaces.

From that day forward i hated her with all i am. Hate is a strong word to use but i can not help my self. Our relationship from then went on as perviouse only diffrence is i did not go out of my way to get her respect and generaly did not care.

We are now also fighing and it is causing tention between my husband and myself.

How do i get this hate for her out of my system?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Hating her still gives her power over you. See a personal therapist to rid yourself of the hate --- you need to do this for your own sake, not hers.
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